Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Therapy today

Will had physical therapy this morning, it didn't go so well. It could have been the fact that it was at 8am which by all accounts is way too early and it could have been the fact that he hadn't had much to eat before the therapist got to the house. Nonetheless, therapy must go on, right?

Will didn't tolerate much of anything. He cried a lot during the hour. And had to take several breaks to come get a snuggle and a hug from his Momma (he is so sweet like that). But there was one point during the hour that I thought, "should I make him continue?". I mean he was so upset and crying. I didn't know if it was that he just didn't want to do therapy, if he was not feeling well, or if he was just having an "off" day. I wish that he could have told me but that is a whole other issue.

I didn't stop the therapy but I am questioning my Mommy abilities right now, should I have called it quits or was I right to have him keep going? In parenting Will, it is hard to know when a push is a good thing or if pushing too hard could cause more trouble down the road. I normally don't think that we push Will too hard with the amount of therapy that he does. I also think that Will is doing so well because of all the therapy that he does. But today I am questioning it.


Anonymous said...

You are doing a great job with him. I think you made the right choice by not stopping him. Don't ever question yourself as a mother. I think that you are a great mother and a wonderful role model for me. I look up to you and what you have accomplished as a mother. Keep up the good work and please don't question yourself. You are doing a GREAT job.
Love you!!

Jessica mommy to Alex/ RTS said...

I have been there. Alex will be screaming, and everything inside me says just take him and end it. I never do.
You are a great mom, dont ever doubt that, I know its hard to make those suddon decisions when it comes to therapy.

Jacqui and Lloyd said...

Hi Myssie

I think this is a really good question to grapple with and to come to a conclusion as to what you believe is beneficial or not for your child. Your question has inspired me to write my thoughts on this question - I have put those on my blog. I would be interested to see what your opinion is on my perspective.

With regarding your mommy abilities - I think the fact that you are reflecting on whether something was helpful or not is an excellent sign that you are wanting the best for your child. I would worry if you never evaluate or question.

Terri H-E said...

Therapy of any kind will have diminished results if the therapist is ignoring resistance, not identifying situations that clearly do NOT motivate the prince of the show. If Will is crying, he is learning that he cannot trust the therapist to be attuned to him. He or she cannot be successful if Will doesn't feel respected by the therapist. Blather, blather. Can you tell I've lived this before? It's demoralizing for our kids to be pushed through things, just as it would be for ourselves. This just might be a dawning she has not yet had, so your idea of discussing approaches to make the most of everyone's time is proof of your mom-skills! Cheers to you.

Anonymous said...

Hello Myssie, I haven't ever left a comment, but I will leave on this particular thought.
I know it is hard especially through a therapy session and you are a strong and compassionate person that I have come to know and respect. So whatever you decide is best for your child is what should be. You are part of the team that makes those decisions for your child. All of you can work together and make things better I am sure of it. You are a great mother and don't doubt that one bit! Will loves you for all you have done for him.